Can I Borrow Your Hours?
By: Felicia Pratt Ellis
As I talked to various friends, or let people know what is going on in my life, I get the same question. Where do you find the time to do all that? I never know how to answer that question. A friend of mine said that when you add people to your life you are still left with the same amount of hours in the day that you had when you were single and there is just not enough hours for someone else. I laughed but agreed. I wondered, when I find the time to work on my website, write my blog, and post it. Do I get work done at my job? When I get home, how did I figure out how to tend to everyone including myself? My answer is, I really don’t know, it just happened.
My initial blog was about going back to work and after a few days at work I became sad because I realized I only had 4 maybe 5 hours to deal with everyone. It made me frustrated, and I didn’t know how to deal with it. Well, I have moved on from that, but didn’t notice until I am asked when do I find the time. The first thing I decided was I am no longer going to be upset about my 4 or 5 hours. I needed to find a way to organize; I needed to find others who have gone through this to give me ideas. Needless to say I found no one, and it’s not that I’m the only one going through this but no one was willing to share that they too were frustrated, upset, and probably nearly lost their mind. Who would want to share such a weakness? Well I’ll be the first to let you know. I cried just about every night and worried about how horrible I am because I went to bed without giving someone some attention and usually that someone was me. I decided that I’m no longer going to cry, worry, or be depressed about it. This is just the life that I have been given and if someone (else) doesn’t get the attention they need, then whatever. My sanity is more important. I hate being sad. Being sad, down, and/or depressed is the worst feeling for me. I will force myself to fix the situation so I can be happy again. So here is my fix:
4 Ways to Find the Time and Get More Hours in Your Day
- Get Organized – Ladies we cannot remember it all and with all these gadgets we don’t have to. I have an Instinct with all these great features, so why not use it. I started to use the calendar and the notes on my phone. I set reminders so I don’t have remembered anything, one less item for me to think about. I then started to use my Google calendar to my Gmail account and had daily agenda’s sent to my phone. Great reminder.
- Set specific times – I do not bring work home with me. I simply refuse to do that. My family is so fun and loving that I want to enjoy that. Sometimes I want someone else to entertain me or I don’t want to miss anything. I refuse to do work or blogging after 5:30 pm and on weekends. That is my time that I spend with my family. I also try (haven’t mastered it yet) set aside an hour for myself. Me time is the same as shower time.
- Make list – Before I leave work I make a list of what needs to be done for tomorrow. Since I use my phone to keep track of appointments and blogging activities I then incorporate that into the down time at the office.
- Know that it is okay – Finally, I don’t beat myself up if I miss something, don’t do something, or forget something. Life happens and if you are upset that’s fine but no wrinkles for me please.
These tips may not work for you, but this is what works for me and with enlisting other members of the family to help me with household chores, things that are needed to get done are done. It’s all about trial and error. If one technique doesn’t work it doesn’t mean you will never have enough hours, it simply means try something else. Unfortunately we cannot add more hours as we add people to our lives. If we could I would probably have 40 hour days, but we would probably still complain about not having enough time. It’s about time management. Learn to manage your time and don’t let any time go by unmanaged.
Let me know how do you manager your time?
Felicia Pratt is an author, WordPress Enthusiast and a Social Media Fanatic that supports women entrepreneurs who run their business online. She helps them connect with their customers and build their online presence so they can increase their visibility and provide consistency in their branding and marketing efforts. Through various entrepreneurial endeavors, Felicia has finally found her niche empowering women by helping them leverage their content effectively through social media and blog content management.
This article first appeared on The Working Housewife.com